Therapy for People Pleasing & Perfectionism

It feels like no matter what you do, it’s never enough, doesn’t it? You put so much effort into everything you do, but instead of feeling proud, you just see what could have been better. Even the smallest mistake feels huge—like a personal failure—and the guilt and shame can feel unbearable.

You’re exhausted, aren’t you? You push yourself so hard, constantly chasing these impossibly high standards, but it never feels like you can rest. Even when you try to relax, there’s that voice in the back of your head telling you that you could be doing more. It’s exhausting to always feel like you’re falling short.

And your relationships… they’re complicated too. You want to connect with people, but it’s hard to let them in. What if they see your flaws? What if they don’t understand the pressure you put on yourself? Maybe you’ve noticed that you sometimes keep people at a distance or take on too much because it feels safer that way.

It’s hard to start new things, isn’t it? You have so many ideas and dreams, but the fear of doing it "wrong" can stop you in your tracks. Or maybe you spend so much time trying to perfect every detail that it feels like you’re stuck in place, unable to move forward. This is when procrastination sets in.

And deep down, there’s this feeling that your worth is tied to how well you perform. Like if you don’t get it right—if you’re not perfect—you’re failing as a person. But the truth is, it’s a never-ending cycle. No matter how much you achieve, it still doesn’t feel like enough.

Does any of this sound familiar? Because if it does, I want you to know you’re not alone in feeling this way. And more importantly, you don’t have to stay trapped in this cycle. These are perfectionism symptoms.

Tri Lotus Psychotherapy can help you overcome perfectionism.

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It feels like you’re always putting others first, doesn’t it? You say “yes” when you want to say “no,” but the thought of letting someone down feels unbearable. You’re constantly worrying about how others see you, and the idea of conflict or disappointment leaves you feeling anxious.

You’re tired, aren’t you? It’s exhausting to always be the one who takes care of everything, even when it means ignoring your own needs. You might even feel resentful sometimes, but you push those feelings down because you don’t want to upset anyone.

And deep down, you might wonder: if I stop pleasing everyone, will they still care about me? It’s a painful cycle—one that leaves you feeling unseen and stretched too thin.

Does this resonate with you? If it does, you’re not alone—and you deserve to take up space too.

How Can Tri Lotus Psychotherapy help?

We can help you overcome perfectionism and stop people pleasing by focusing on the root cause of your symptoms and treating it.

In addition to this we can help you develop skills to cope with discomfort in a way that isn't overwhelming, learn to set boundaries that honour your needs, and practice committing to actions that align with how you want to show up.

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